My husband travels a lot for work. In some ways, this is a huge pain in the rear – cooking all of the meals, supervising two kids doing homework, taking the spawn to school in the morning and to evening activities, walking the dog, cleaning, packing lunches, blah, blah, blah. On the other hand, it’s actually conveniently lovely. The spouse is a vegetarian and the children and I are not…when he’s gone, we have meat. There are far fewer water glasses strewn about the house for me to herd into the dishwasher before going to bed. Nobody uses the mugs you have to hand wash and then leaves them on the counter hoping they magically take care of themselves. I have the luxury of watching Korean, Taiwanese, or Japanese dramas at night after the kids FINALLY get into bed rather than being subjected to ‘together time’ watching American TV I care nothing about. Plus, there is the whole absence makes the heart grow fonder thing.
And the music. We are both music people…very different music people.
Autumn is my favorite season because of the drop in temperature, the cozy clothes, and the transition from the summer bops to slightly darker, maybe a little smoother, still dancy songs. These aren’t beach songs, but it’s not yet ballad season. Kanto, member of the group Troy and recognized solo artist, is really, really good at fall releases. I like to play his songs over and over and as loud as my full house can handle while dancing around half-heartedly cleaning and passionately singing along. It’s easier to do this when the men of the house (my husband and my brother, we are an extended family home) are absent. Alone, even when the kids are actually in the house, does not always mean lonely.
Kanto released the song Lonely featuring Eddy Kim in September of last year…a year to the day from when I am actually writing this post…and I’m still playing it like a new release. The lyrics are all about how he’s so incredibly lonely, despite going out clubbing and partying with his friends, because his lady love is gone. I assume lady love, but who am I to make assumptions? Anyway, It’s the whole hero-playing-too-hard-in-order-to-hide-his-pain trope. The video is a fabulously unresolved drama. Plus, it’s great to dance to.
Kanto and I are finding ourselves on opposite sides of the coin at the moment. He’s surrounded and lonely, I’m alone and overridden. But we are sharing this song…so, I think we’re both happier for it.